I recollect when I was seeing a lady towards the finish of 2011, who was experiencing a testing time. She wasn't in a decent place, and this implied I attempted to do what I could to help her.

This fundamentally occurred through tuning in to what she needed to state and offering exhortation. I was additionally experiencing a testing time, however I went about as if I had everything in perfect order.

A Number of Things

I had lost my dad a couple of months earlier and my mom had additionally experienced a testing time the prior year. It wasn't that I intentionally carried on along these lines, however, as it simply happened.

I had been like this for various years, and it implied that I tended to concentrate on a lady's needs. I went about just as I was unnecessary and this was then a path for me to in a roundabout way satisfy my own needs.

My Outlook

At the time, I trusted that this lady should have been safeguarded, and that I was the person who could do it. Through wanting to look solid, I didn't ramble about what I was experiencing.

Likewise, through concentrating on what was happening in her life, it enabled me to maintain a strategic distance from what was occurring in my own particular life. Furthermore, because of my enthusiasm for brain research, I had a lot of guidance to offer.

The Same Old Story

After our chance had reached an end, I wound up meeting another lady who had various difficulties. I trusted that I had the information and the devices to have any kind of effect in her life, as well.

Luckily, my own issues were beginning to gain out of power, which implied that I had no other decision than to make a stride back. I wound up taking a break and, a little while later, a similar situation occurred once more.

A New Beginning

Be that as it may, soon after a relationship that I was in toward the start of 2013 arrived at an end, I was never again keen on acting along these lines. This was a period when I needed to confront the torment that was inside me.

The need to look solid and just as I had it inside and out likewise reached an end, and I began to perceive any reason why I was acting along these lines. Where it counts, I trust that I didn't demand to have my requirements met, and this was the reason I needed to get them met by implication.

A Human Doing

What's more, I trusted that my esteem depended on what I did and not on my identity, which was the reason I needed to get things done to be preferred. Said another way, I trusted that I would be rejected in the event that I carried on in an unexpected way.

Also, as I trusted that I was useless, the exact opposite thing I needed to do was to uncover my actual self to another lady. I trusted that I was unlovable, and wearing a cover was an approach to conceal this from others.

The Time Had Come

One of the huge issues I had through wearing a veil was that it wasn't workable for me to encounter closeness; this could just happen on the off chance that I uncovered my actual self. At the point when the agony inside me came up to the surface it was a horrific experience, yet it didn't keep going forever.

The encounters that I had with my mom while I was growing up had a major impact in why I had encountered life along these lines. Fortunately, I could put a conclusion to this conduct and to grasp my characteristic esteem.

Moral police calls for the arrest and counseling of gay lions spotted in Kenya
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Dr Ezekiel Mutua, who is responsible for TV and film censorship in Kenya, has blamed gay men for the actions of two lions recent photgraphed getting intimate in Kenya's Masai Mara.
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The two male lions were seen engaging in a love-making session that lasted for at least a minute. Mutua saw the photo and said gay men who visit the national park are responsible for influencing the animals' behaviour. .
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He also called for the two lions in question to be caught and kept in isolation until scientists can "determine how they acquired homosexual behaviour". .
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Homosexuality among certain animals, including lions, has been observed for decades and is believed to be a natural occurence, but Dr Mutua is convinced that the only way the lions learnt that is either by seeing gay men having sex in front of them, or the lions have been possessed by demons. .
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"These animals need counseling, because probably they have been influenced by gays who have gone to the national parks and behaved badly," Dr Mutua told Nairobi News. .
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"They must have copied it from somewhere or it is demonic. Because these animals do not watch movies." The images of the lions getting intimate were taken by London-based photographer Paul Goldstein during a trip to the Masai Mara. .
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The lions had walked into some bushes to get some privacy and that was when Goldstein saw them. He said he first observed the two lions standing side-by-side, before one lay down and was gently mounted by the other. .
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Mr Goldstein says: "When lions mate it normally last a few seconds, these two were at it for over a minute and the obvious affection afterwards was very evident, as opposed to the violent withdrawal when male and female mate. .
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Even as he dismounted he did not back off as is normal after mating, he crept round to the other male's muzzle, for a nuzzle and threw a conspiratorial wink his way." .
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Lions are not the only animal species where homosexual relations exits. Biologists have recorded same-sex sexual activity in more than 450 species including flamingos, bison, beetles and warthogs.

A story of one Mr. something something kufre Ukpong who is legally married to an oyibo woman yet came down to Nigeria to take another wife kinda went viral.

I noticed that most people who have reacted to the story so far are bashing the man for stringing the Abak girl blindly along and how the girl and her family did not do proper investigation… blah, blah, blah. After reading the story from people’s timeline last night, the curious part of me came alive, I quickly put on my FBI cap and sprung into action. So this is what I personally gathered from the whole saga:

The Nigerian girl may have known about the guy’s marital status, she knew the Ukpong guy has a child, guess she also knew the oyibo woman was nothing more than a trophy wife. So this was the plot, I think; the man marries this Miss Gill, acquires American or Uk Citizenship, dumps the cougar’s sorry ass, comes back home to Nigeria, marries his true love, takes her with him to Obodo Oyibo and they’ll live happily ever after.

Who no wan go Obodo Oyibo?
I hear the land is ever green and frosh over there. Who no like better things kwa? That aside, we know say husbands no too too dey this Akwa Ibom, na boyfriends full ground. So I don’t blame the sister all that mbok, she cannod come and dull let this golden opportunity to change surname and bear Mrs and go Obodo Oyibo pass her by.

Unfortunately the plot did not quite go down as planned, what is a story without conflicts, suspense, and plot twists anyways? Just when the newly wedded thought they’ve made it, the Antagonist (Mrs Gill) shows up like a Pro’… Lol.

You know when you’re watching a movie, after plenty plenty suspense the Actor finally kills the Boss, the Actor’s love interest alights from an helicopter with tears of victory in her eyes, runs towards the Hero in slow motion and covers his bloodstained mouth with her luscious lips. As they’re busy kissing, everyone thinks the movie has finally come to an end, uwafid happy ending. Instead of sha seeing “To God be the Glory” as expected, a gunshot is fired from somewhere. Gheng Gheng!!! Anticlimax things, the Boss didn’t die…

That’s how Mrs. Gill showed up in the Ukpong’s marriage saga story like a Boss Lady. They say hell knows no fury like a woman scorned. My brothers when you want to scorn someborri, don’t go and be scorning Oyibo pepper them gang o because a Nigerian woman fit temper small justice with mercy but Oyibo women don’t take no s**iiii* i love this oyibo woman craze. I know this movie will have part 2,3 and 4.

Oyibo woman show this man pepper upandan for me.They tink they’re wicked abi?

Lesson for all especially desperados!

source:abymo

Sex Problems You Don’t Need To Worry About – When he loses his erection, many women feel like they’re not attrative enough or that they’re doing something wrong in bed.

Sex Problems You Don’t Need To Worry About – Let’s be real: We probably worry about certain bedroom issues a lot more than we should. But distinguishing between problems that are no big deal and ones that can eventually derail your coupledom is a tricky business.

Here, sex therapists sort through some of the most common worries women have about their sex lives that aren’t worthy of your worrying.

1. Your sex drives are out of sync
This situation can manifest itself in two ways: Either one of you prefers to get busy in the daytime while the other is all about nighttime, or one of you wants to do it all the time and the other doesn’t. Even though it can be a real challenge, it doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker, says Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist for Good Vibrations. The best thing you can do is respect the fact that your engines are different and plan accordingly. See if there are cross-sections where your sex drives intersect, like doing it two times a week instead of either one or four. Or, if all else fails, give yourself a hand while you wait for your partner’s sex drive to come around again.

2. You’re not as turned on by your SO as you used to be
It’s super-common for that crazy-in-love early relationship energy to wear off the longer you’re with someone. The only time this is a red flag is if it makes it hard for you to be sexual with your partner. But if things are still hot, just not boiling hot, says Queen, you’re in good shape. There are plenty of ways you can heat things up again, including learning new moves and playing into each other’s fantasies.


3. Your sex drive tanks after having a baby
Having kids does not have to be the beginning of the end of your sex life. “Postpartum, your hormones get wonky in a whole new way, and the toll your sex drive takes is exacerbated by fatigue and intense focus on your child,” says Queen. Over time, your sex life will shift into a new normal—and if it doesn’t, you can always get in touch with your ob-gyn for help, she says.



4. Your sexual preferences are totally different
He loves a BJ more than anything, but you don’t love doling them out—it happens. But the only time this becomes a problem is if you don’t communicate about your differences, or worse, perpetually put off your own needs for the sake of his. “There can often be resolve, so long as your preferences are communicated about regularly,” says board-certified clinical sexologist Debra Laino, PhD. “As a matter of fact, couples can be playful about their differences, such as asking for their preferences on special days.” It’s all about give and take.



5. He loses his erection
When he loses his erection, many women feel like they’re not attrative enough or that they’re doing something wrong in bed. But that’s not the case. “Some men just get straight-up performance anxiety,” says clinical sexologist Dawn Michael, PhD. “Just have him focus his energy back on pleasing you, and it will relieve the pressure on him.” Win/win.


6. Your orgasm is ghosting you

“There are plenty of things that can temporarily prevent an orgasm—stress, an argument with a friend, even hormonal fluctuations,” says Laino. Consider stepping up your foreplay game to give yourself longer to unwind. The time to take action on this issue is if your dip in orgasms is totally unlike the way your body normally operates. If a few months go by and it hasn’t come back—and there aren’t any obvious reasons for the shortfall—talk to your ob-gyn.

The Woman's breasts are filled with hyper-sensitive nerve endings that get stimulated when touched, sucked or licked.

Men love to suck the breast just as women love their breast to be stimulated but some men avoid a woman's breast as soon as she gets pregnant because they believe the breast milk is harmful to Adults.

BUT CAN AN ADULT ALSO TAKE BREAST MILK?

YES...

Breast milk is quite beneficial for adults too... It increase an adult immunity as it does in children.

BENEFITS TO THE WOMAN:

It helps to balance the cardiovascular system. If a woman breast is sucked for a long period of time, it increases the heart beat rate of a woman to 110 beats per minute. It is a very good exercise for your heart health.

WANT A FIRMER FACE?

Then do not be reluctant for your hubby to suck your breast. It helps to move more than 30 female facial muscles; and improves blood flow in the skin.

ORGASM

If you are the type that don't feel or enjoy sex. Encourage your hubby to suck your breast and play with your nipples, I bet you!  you will reach orgasm.

BOOSTS IMMUNE SYSTEM

It is a natural remedy that stimulates the immune system resulting in the production of Antibodies that can protect against viruses. This process is called CROSS IMMUNO-THERAPY. During breast sucking, the breath of a woman becomes faster more than 60 times per minute. INHALING AND EXHALING MORE OFTEN WILL HELP PREVENT A VARIETY OF DISEASE OF THE LUNGS.

CANCER OF THE BREAST

Study has shown that sucking and massaging a breast simultaneously and vigorously help to reduce chances of a breast lumps which can develop to cancer.. It helps in easy flow of hormones and prevent lumps in the breast.
 
BENEFITS TO THE MAN

Breast milk can tackle cancer. Adults with cancer cells, digestive disorder and immune disorder are advised to drink several ounces of milk daily or weekly to ease the ravages of CHEMOTHERAPY. It helps to bolster their immune system and improve digestion.
 

WOMEN, IF YOU ARE A BREASTFEEDING MUM, WILLINGLY  ALLOW YOUR BABY TO FED FROM THE BREAST AS LONG AS THE BABY WANT. AS YOU'RE BREASTFEEDING, MASSAGE THE BREAST TO PREVENT LUMPS.; SAME IF YOU ARE USING BREAST PUMP, MASSAGE AS YOU PUMP.

IF YOUR HUBBY LOVE TO SUCK BREAST, PLEASE ALLOW HIM TO SUCK YOUR BREAST TODAY AND ALWAYS. ENCOURAGE YOUR BABY AND HUBBY TO SUCK  YOUR BREAST. IT'S A WIN WIN THING FOR YOU.

Ways to know if your girlfriend just slept with someone else – The issue of infidelity in relationships can never be overlooked as it is a subject that affects many. The same way women cheat in relationships, men also cheat. What most people fail to understand is that there would always be lapses when a party starts to cheat on the other person.

Although, many would agree that catching a cheating partner is psychological; this explains why people say their instincts led them to the discovery. In this piece, we would be looking at the signs men watch out for when they want to know if their woman has been cheating or not. The signs that would be raised would be considered elementary for those girls who make cheating their life ambition and would never be caught doing it. Find below some of the give-away signs that men watch out for when women cheat on them:

1. The smell
There is always a funny smell you will perceive after S3@. Xx:’; no matter the level of personal hygiene you may have, there would always be an odor. This is because S3@. Xx:’ has its own smell. And after the meshing and grinding of two bodies on heat, you should not expect to breathe in clean air in that place. Men get to know if their girlfriends have just slept with someone else by perceiving that odor. Some people have very sensitive olfactory lobes that could pick smells from afar. Ladies who do not clean up well may be caught this way.

2. Deep sleep
Whenever your girlfriend returns from an unknown place and spend an awfully long time in the bathroom, then something is fishy. Women are always very conscious and would do everything they could to cover their tracks after sleeping with someone else other than their boyfriends. And to make matters worse, they go into a deep sleep without being drunk. Definitely, they have some serious explanations to make.

3. They turn down advances
Men get to predict if their girlfriends just slept with someone else when they turn down their S3@. Xx:’ual advances later. Women do not like having S3@. Xx:’ when they have reached orgasm severally. The best they could do in an instance as such is to turn down the S3@. Xx:’ual advances and rest till they feel rejuvenated enough to do it

4. When her make up is neatly done
Another way men get to know if their girlfriends have been doing stuffs behind them is through their appearances. Women, in a bid not to draw attention to themselves and what they have done try reapplying their makeup.
Some men who know their women well enough may feel like it is out of place for them to have their makeup reapplied at a particular time of the day. Also, they make effort to look fresh by applying perfume on their bodies for freshness.

5. They become defensive
Women who cheat know that their boyfriends are likely to question them when they return; therefore, they are prepared for the questions and prepping they may go through.
And being women, they end up flaring up as soon as the questions are asked. This defense mechanism of theirs makes the men feel like they have just slept with someone else.

6. They avoid eye contact
Remember men could never get it wrong with these signs if the girlfriends in question are women who are just starting to get into the cheating business.
They still have conscience and would feel guilty about sleeping with other men. But the pros, they are most likely to look you in the eye and stand their ground when they are being questioned

A Nigerian lady identified as Silverline Okoro took to Instagram yesterday to celebrate her third anniversary with her girlfriend-cum-love of her life.

She shared a romantic video of them, kissing and cuddling on bed and captioned it:

@ms_steal_urgirl

"Today we remember those who fought for us and our right to be, ironically I met the love of my life same weekend 3 yrs ago.Music by @tiwasavage #happymemorialday #happyanniversary baby 😙 #silverlinesbeautyplaybook #blessed #mylife #love #baeandi #baeandme #blacklesbianlove #lesbianlove #lovinglife #allover #ilovespendingtimewithher #girlsinlove #naijababe #naijagirlskillingit #africangirlskillingit #westafricans_onpoint #girlswithswag #naijablogger #blackgirlmagic #lgbtcouple #lovehasnogender #dowhatmakesyouhappy #lgbtcommunity #lovewins #realationshipgoals #lgbt #blackloveSee"

An anointed minister of God, preacher, motivational speaker and a women positivist, Celestine Donkor is one of Ghana’s renowned Gospel artiste but her words during a recent interview has raised questions in the mind of many.

During the interview Joy FM, when asked to choose between having s3x on the car or shower, she quickly picked shower adding that she will opt for sex in the shower than getting intimate in a car anytime.

Talking about how she copes with Men of God hitting on her daily, Celestine who has three albums to her name said she is not amazed at such advances because her interactions with some of these pastors show they are denied sex at home.

'People are human, pastors are humans too; Anyone can fall short. Everybody has his or her weakness.'

She further revealed that she has ‘cursed’ her husband such that if he tries to do anything with another woman, his manhood will be stuck inside the lady.

For Celestine, life is meaningful when it is dedicated and committed to the service of the Lord.

'For this reason I count it a blessing to be a servant of the Lord. I love Jesus, he is the best thing that happened to my life.'

Currently, she is a praise and worship leader and the school of worship facilitator at the International Central Gospel Church in Ghana.

Here’s a list of the eight monumental sexual experiences you should try or recreate in a lifetime…

• Wedding night sex. Even if you married 20 years ago, you can recreate the wedding-night sex, says an anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher. The experience sends feel-good chemicals dopamine and epinephrine, which your body pumps out when you’re ecstatic.

• Honey-I’m-home-sex. This is for that moment when you’ve been away for a while — say, on a business trip and you’re back home. Sexologist Ava Cadell say this is the most romantic sex, because it starts out with long, luscious kisses that really get the juices flowing.

• Make-up sex. When there’s a fight, the attendant anger drives up testosterone in both men and women,” Fisher says. “If you go to bed with increased testosterone and agitation, the sex drive is going to be stronger,” she says. So, deploy the sex drive to having a steamy, make-up sex.

• Break-up sex. Sometimes, when you’ve decided together that the relationship isn’t working, you end up having sex to end things on a high note. Occasionally, that last sex winds up being better than any you’ve had in the past six months. Indeed, researchers speculate that in so-called last-chance sex, a man may unknowingly alter the levels of certain hormones in his semen, and that may trigger his partner to ovulate spontaneously.

• Birthday sex. Well, this is a gift like no other, if you get the drift. So, take your partner to somewhere special and leave your underwear at home. Dance to sexy music that leads to the movement of the pelvis,” Cadell says. When you’re back home, caress or lightly stimulate each other’s sensitive areas and take it up from there.

• First-time sex. Having sex with someone for the first time is exciting because of the discovery factor, says a licensed marriage/family therapist, Dr. Louanne Weston. “You’re really tuned in to every sense, and you’re feeling things for the first time,” he says. Hit the bed at a different angle, sit or stand up on the bed for extra stimulation.

• Holiday sex. The change in scenery alone is enough to make vacation sex hotter than usual. “There’s a marking-the-territory factor for most men and women. And sex on vacation is a virginal experience in a way,” Weston says. Try different positions for effect.

• Baby-making sex. Many couples feel an intense emotional connection the first time they start trying to have a baby, especially if they’ve tried so long to avoid pregnancy, but now they’re ready to be parents, Weston says. So, have sex on your sides face-to-face, creating intensive emotional bond. You can also play a song that means something to both of you.

There are several times your heart pounds a little faster when you meet someone interesting or good looking. You suddenly start falling for the person and feel as if love is floating in the air. Do you really think love develops so quickly?

This is the infatuation stage and most people mistake it for love and go ahead with commitments. Infatuation is very shallow. You need to give it some time to develop deeper feelings for this person and only then can you term it as love.

Watch out for these signs that clearly indicate that you’re just infatuated:

1. You can’t stop thinking about this person. You want to be with them all the time, cuddling up, getting romantic or just watching them. When in love, you miss being with the person but you also miss the conversations and are happy to do that over phone or message too if you both can’t meet up regularly.


2. You stalk them everywhere. You check their last seen on Whatsapp regularly, you like all their status updates and pictures on social media and leave compliments and comments everywhere. Infatuation just makes you childish whereas love is mature.
3. You can’t stop fantasizing about them as your life partner even if you’ve just met a few days ago. Love doesn’t happen in one go. It takes time. You may like someone in the first sight, but you need to give love time to grow. Everything till then is just infatuation.
4. You assume you know them in and out. You even take decisions for them or start assuming what their answers would be and that only after knowing them for a couple of weeks. Stop right there because this bubble will break too soon. In a few months, the person might just act opposite of what you expect or hope.

5. You feel lonely when they are not around. True love keeps you happy and cheerful all day even if the person is not around. Infatuation is more to do with being close to the person or with them all the time.

6. Your life revolves around this person. Suddenly, work and personal life come to a stop. You spend most of your time thinking about them or stalking them. You are ready to do anything for them. True love doesn’t have to involve so much sacrifice – at least not like this. It requires two people to grow together, adapt to each other and strengthen their bond. Infatuation makes you adjust and sacrifice which gets bothersome when the flames die down.

7. Infatuation leaves you feeling insecure. Love gives you a security blanket and loads of confidence in your partner. When you’re in love, you know your partner is loyal and loves you as much too. You understand if they are unable to talk to you or reply to your texts because of busy schedules. Infatuation keeps you feeling jealous and terrified all the time.

8. You’re obsessed about the person. You talk about them to everyone all the time. You are blushing and smiling all day because he/she is on your mind all day. You like everything they do. You even find yourself scribbling their name on paper or just checking their pictures and drooling over them. Being in love doesn’t make logic go on vacation.

9. You want them only to yourself. You prefer if just the two of you hang out all the time. His/her friends or your friends seem like distractions. When it’s love, you are more accepting. You feel the need to know each other’s friends, family and about the personal life to understand each other better.

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