A
Nigerian woman identified Mrs Ohiwe-ei Unuigbe, based in South Africa has
welcomed her first child with husband after 9 years of marriage and
childlessness.
While
in the university, she had a man, a medical student, (she was a Chemical
Engineering student) who supported her financially and they had planned to
marry. But upon graduating and when the man asked for her hand in marriage, her
people declared he was Osu (the set of people “forbidden” in Igbo land in
Nigeria).
Mrs
Unigbe got married to her husband afterwards and couldn’t have a baby.
Her
husband shared her parents made her reject a former suitor, a medical doctor
who financially saw her through university because he was an ‘osu’ (outcast)
Mr
Unuigbe shared his testimony and their infertility journey below:
”My
birthday testimony
”It
is my birthday today, February the 14th 2017. I would like to testify of the
miracle God did in my family just before this day. Early October last year, my
wife and I had our first baby, a boy. His names are Ovbioise Chukwuemezikam
Unuigbe. I had kept this testimony until today. There are different aspects to
it.
”We
waited for 9 years after marriage. We married in 2007 when I was 39 and my wife
was 35. Obviously we did not marry as early as we would both want to due to
errors caused by circumstances, including ignorance.
If you are a “spiritual Christian”, you will understand what I am about to say. In about 1995 / 1996 (I am not too sure of the exact year), I had been posted in Benin from the Akenzua Parish (branch) of our church, the Redeemed Christian Church of God to the GRA to support the planting of a new parish.
If you are a “spiritual Christian”, you will understand what I am about to say. In about 1995 / 1996 (I am not too sure of the exact year), I had been posted in Benin from the Akenzua Parish (branch) of our church, the Redeemed Christian Church of God to the GRA to support the planting of a new parish.
”While
there, I represented the parish as a youth leader in the State Youth Fire
Conference held in Warri, Delta State. Then Edo and Delta were one state by
RCCG classification and that is what is now called Province. It was one of the
nights during that programme that I had a very clear revelation of a lady to be
my wife.
”The
youth leaders of parishes where accommodated two in a room each and I was with
my very close friend who is now an Area pastor.
I did not tell him about the dream, neither did I tell my pastor, Pastor Matthew Sule. For two reasons, I did not want to marry this sister. One was that I still had the Ordinary National Diploma then and I considered that marrying then would keep me at that level. While I was hoping to continue my education, I did not want to keep a sister waiting for too long.
I did not tell him about the dream, neither did I tell my pastor, Pastor Matthew Sule. For two reasons, I did not want to marry this sister. One was that I still had the Ordinary National Diploma then and I considered that marrying then would keep me at that level. While I was hoping to continue my education, I did not want to keep a sister waiting for too long.
”The
second reason was that the lady in question was from a tribe in Edo State (my
home state), from which my own people do not marry. We heard and held negative
“myths” about them. It was passed down over the years.
So I abandoned the dream! Strange enough, I and the lady got very close as the posting from Akenzua to the GRA brought us together. She was very pretty, well behaved and a committed Christian.
So I abandoned the dream! Strange enough, I and the lady got very close as the posting from Akenzua to the GRA brought us together. She was very pretty, well behaved and a committed Christian.
”We
trusted each other as workers in the RCCG then. As much as I liked her and had
strong feelings for her, I never opened my mouth to express anything about it
to her. In 1997, she got married to someone else but not before she had said to
me, “Bro Ohi, I have to marry this year” and I replied, “Have you found
somebody?”. When she made that comment my mind missed and it was like losing a
big opportunity! This was a big error!
I eventually went to school, resigned my job with FIRS, got the Bachelors and the Masters degrees and by the time I married it was 10 years after this lady had married.
I eventually went to school, resigned my job with FIRS, got the Bachelors and the Masters degrees and by the time I married it was 10 years after this lady had married.
”The
lessons here are:
i.
When you refuse God’s instruction on issues as marriage, it takes a whole cycle
and His mercy to pick it up again. Mine was 1997 and 2007.
ii.
Never refuse a person connected to you by the will of God for reasons of where
she or he comes from or for any other reason.
”I
met my wife eventually in Lagos in 2005. She too had similar issue. While in
the university, she had a man, a medical student, (she was a Chemical
Engineering student) who supported her financially and they had planned to
marry.
”But
upon graduating and when the man asked for her hand in marriage, her people,
not her, declared he was Osu (the set of people “forbidden” in Igbo land in
Nigeria). So she was sent from Enugu to live with a relation in Lagos. I only
discovered this when things were going out of hand after we had been married
and had no children for some years.
WE BEGAN TO ASK EACH OTHER QUESTIONS. Eventually, we did restitution.
WE BEGAN TO ASK EACH OTHER QUESTIONS. Eventually, we did restitution.
”There
are many other points to the experience of our waiting for the fruit of the
womb. This space will not contain then for now. We shall put them in a book. We
hope to also get platforms to practically share our experiences. I have
discovered that “your experience is your ministry”.
I would conclude by sharing the following highlights:
1.
We had some anchor scriptures to pray with as our case moved towards “logical
impossibility” – Exodus 23:25-26, Psalms 92:12-15 and many others. We also
walked with them. We prayed, we fasted, we gave all the commitment we could, we
asked ourselves questions, we studied spiritual and medical books on pregnancy
and infertility, we fought all round. But in all, we obtained victory by the
mercy of God!
2.
Never reject God’s leading for any reason. The family of a Christian is the
people in the house of God who are children of God. Not the Biological tribes.
3.
Fight for the fulfillment of God’s word in any area of your life that is not
holding true to the word of God. The fight begins from inside of you!
Join
me to celebrate the arrival of our first baby, a special gift from God. This
supersedes and takes the place of my birthday celebration today.
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